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Wednesday, July 30, 2014

5 Things I Learned About Myself Through Traveling


Someone once asked me why I love to travel so much and it took me a long time to come up with a good answer. There's just so many reasons! One of the reasons is because I learn so much about myself through the process of exploring new places. It's funny cause when you're traveling, it never occurs to you at the time that you'll run into yourself as well. You're far too distracted with seeing famous attractions, wandering through unknown streets, and trying out different foods that you don't even realize that you changed. It's not until you actually come back home and look in the mirror, do you realize that there's something different about you. Try it next time you come back from a trip! I promise you there will be something different, maybe not in the way you look but in the way you feel. Anyways, here are 10 things that I learned about myself through traveling and the ways that I ended up changing because of it.


#1.) I'm Braver Than I Thought I Would Be - Every once in a while when I'm walking around in a new city, usually at quiet hours, it occurs to me that I'm quite brave. I never associated myself with being brave before, I'm always anxious and paranoid about things. All of this seemed to change once I started having the intense need to travel. I wanted to travel more than I wanted to stay in the same place therefore I pushed whatever anxiety I had to the back of my mind.

#2.) I Need to Work On My Patience - Who said everything that you learn about yourself would be good? I never knew how much I needed to work on my patience until I started getting frustrated over delayed flights and waiting in line for gelato for too long. These days, I try to take a deep breath and calm myself down before I start getting frustrated and thinking negatively. 

#3.) I Need to Choose My Travel Companions More Wisely - Traveling is all fun and games until you get frustrated with your traveling companion. I can't tell you how much that makes your trip less enjoyable! This is why I'm eager to try solo travel so I can learn more about myself and to see if I do better by myself.

#4.) Wait, I'm Actually...Confident?! - I can't help it, I'm an introvert and confidence doesn't seem to mix well with introverts. However when I travel, it all seems to change. I have no choice but to be confident when asking locals for directions or when meeting new people. You slowly learn to be confident and then you take that confidence home with you. It's such a great souvenir from the trip, don't you think?

#5.) I'm Satisfied with My Life - I'm someone who complains about my life a lot and forgets to be grateful for all the things that I do have. Once you travel and see how other people's lives are like, you realize how grateful you should be for even having the opportunity to travel the world. Not everyone gets that opportunity especially at my age so I've learned to be thankful for it. Sure my life may not be rich and glamorous but I'm satisfied with what I got and that's all that matters. 


What have you learned about yourself through traveling? Let me know in the comments below!

Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya
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Monday, July 28, 2014

Current Wishlist


Hey guys! Here are some stuff that I've been adding to my mental wishlist and hopefully will eventually buy when I'm not broke, which is rare haha. Oh a college girl can dream...

1.) Tiffany & Co "Return to Tiffany" Pearl Bracelet
2.) Michael Kors "Jules" Drawstring Shoulder Bag 
3.) Aldo "Galaowen" Booties
4.) Nasty Gal "Julian" Bowler Hat
5.) Rebecca Taylor Texture Skirt
6.) Topshop Folk Print Stud Crop Top
7.) Chanel Nail Polish in "Secret"
8.) Dolce & Gabbana Dolce Perfume


As you can see from the collage, my style is literally all over the place. That's probably why I always have a hard time describing it when people ask me what my style is like. The only thing that I've come close to is "girly". 


What have you been adding to your wishlist lately?

Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya
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Saturday, July 26, 2014

Trends Talk: The Return of the Choker

 In the world of fashion, trends always get recycled. Unless you've been living under a rock (highly unlikely) then you must've noticed the 90's revival that we've been going through right now. Everything that used to be trendy back during my childhood is back but in a refreshingly modern way compared to how they used to be worn. Just take a look at the crop tops and skinny heels trends, at one point in time these were worn by Christina Aguilera and Britney Spears yet has been modified enough for the every day women to wear today. Of course, not all trends that make it's way back is a hit. Yes. I'm talking about the choker. Ya know the ones that we used to buy for 25 cents from a machine? Those chokers.

I first saw the trend making it's way back when Kylie Jenner posted a photo on Instagram, wearing a thin black choker around her neck. Then I saw it being sold on Asos and now it seems to slowly be making its way into stores. Mhm...not too sure about this. All I remember when I was wearing those in the 90's was the "tattoo" chokers that always ended up being too loose to wear.

Still don't know what I'm talking about? Here's some photos to help you remember...


Alicia Silverstone aka the 90's movie queen. Not gonna lie, it doesn't look too bad on her but then again she's gorgeous and can probably pull off anything.


Yes, guys wore chokers too but it doesn't mean that it looked any better. Jared Leto is the only exception. Seriously does this guy not age?


Lastly, Drew Barrymore because let's face it, a post about the 90's isn't complete without mentioning her.


So what do you think about this trend? Would you wear it in 2014 or are you looking forward to this trend going away? Let me know in the comments below!


Until next time lovelies,

-Ruya


(source: Huffingtonpost.com, fashiongrunge.com, Pinterest)
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Friday, July 25, 2014

Current Obsession: Megan Fox for Cosmopolitan August 2014


It's been a long time since I've done a current obsession post, and it's been an even longer time since Megan Fox has graced the cover of a magazine! I was surprised to see her on the cover of Cosmopolitan a few days ago when I was at the drugstore. Although Cosmo isn't a magazine that I frequently buy since it's not entirely fashion-related, but I couldn't help but pick this one up when I saw the gorgeous pieces that Megan Fox was wearing.

One thing I've noticed about Cosmopolitan photo shoots is that it always has a good balance between girly-ness and sexy. It's never too much but just the right amount to keep it tasteful and that's the perfect way to describe Megan's photoshoot with them as well. 

The shoot was filled with bright, colorful pieces that remains with the summer theme that magazines are currently following. Although I'm not one for tons of color, the clothing had a sophisticated edge to it (such as this gorgeous peplum dress below) that made it look more modern than childish. 



Of course, my favorite outfit was this white top and skirt (no surprise there) that seems to be from two different eras yet works in harmony when put together. The structured top is futuristic while the feminine skirt balances it out from looking too severe. A perfect combination if you ask me!



Well that's it for now! If you would like to get your hands on a copy of this issue, it's available in stores now. If you would like to see more from the photoshoot, check out fashionscansremastered.net which is where I found the photos.

Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya
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Thursday, July 24, 2014

The Golden Hour








The Gap dress, Express bag, Express flats (sold out online), Ray Ban Wayfarer sunglasses


Photographers always seem to praise, what they like to call "The Golden Hour", which is an hour before sunrise or sunset and is considered to be the best times of day to shoot. The effect of the sun seems to be your best friend around those times since the sun gives off a warm glow to photos making you appear vibrant while the shadows makes a regular photo seem so much more interesting. My photographer, Fatima and I wanted to do something different with this outfit post so we decided to put The Golden Hour to the test and see if it's really worth the hype.

We chose to do the shoot an hour before sunset and I'll admit it was difficult getting the right shots around this time. Many of the photos either turned out too dark or created shadows in all the wrong places but in the end we seemed to get a couple good shots. I still consider myself new to blogging about outfits so I'm always looking for different ways to present them and I'm not afraid of the trial and error process. I'm sure there will be tons more hits and misses when it comes to my blog posts but as long as I enjoy doing it, I'll keep going! 

Sorry for that long rant, on to the outfit! I typically don't shop at the Gap but once in a while I like to go in there and see if they have anything interesting. This nautical dress is just one of those gems that I've found in there that completely reminded me of what Audrey Hepburn would wear in the summer. It's just so classy and most importantly, comfortable for lazy hot days! 

I decided to pair it with these futuristic-looking flats from Express and a pop of hot pink with this satchel that's also from there. Satchels have become my best friend and I feel like I want to buy this one in every color since it feels so smooth and has tons of room.


Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya
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Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Wanderlust News: Travel Plans for 2015


Hey guys! I haven't posted about travel in a while and that's because I've been too busy planning my new trip! Unfortunately it's going to be in 2015 (wow it feels weird saying 2015) but good things come to those who wait. My New Years resolution for 2014 was to take more risks and sadly I haven't been keeping up with the resolution that well. It's hard taking risks when you're so attached to a comfort zone but I figured when is it ever the right time to take a risk? You can't predict it therefore you need to just jump right in and take a chance! Which brings me to the story of how I decided to take more chances with my traveling plans...

A little over a month ago, one of my dear friends told me that she found a travel agency that sets up travel plans specifically for college kids who are on break. She decided to sign up for a month long trip that tours all the sights in Europe and asked me for travel advice. Although I happily told her everything I knew, I was also instantly envious (who wouldn't be?!) that she was taking such a huge risk while I was just stuck here for the summer. If I love to travel so much then why haven't I done something like this? 

I always made excuses for myself when it comes to taking chances. "I don't have enough money", "It'll be too hard", "You can do it after college is over" and blah, blah, blah. That was completely my fear talking to me. The reality is that the future isn't guaranteed for any of us. If you're going to do something then you better do it now. You'll never be ready to take a risk but that is the beauty of it.

So what cities am I traveling to next year during spring break? LONDON AND PARIS! All throughout my life I've always dreamed of visiting these two cities. I've seen the cities tons of times in magazines, movies, and even on other fashion bloggers' websites but it's going to be completely different visiting it for myself. I've noticed that I'm always attracted to cities with tons of culture, art, and beauty so why shouldn't I start with these two fashion capitals first?

Oh and did I mention I'm going with my best friend? It seriously doesn't get any better than this. I'll admit I am nervous (okay a lot nervous!) but that doesn't mean that I'm not ridiculously excited as well! I never thought that I would be doing this at such a young age but then again I wish I did this sooner! It's an amazing feeling to go after your dreams and break free from routine.

With this, I'd like to end this post by saying that wanderlust is a beautiful thing and I hope each and every one of you catches it and pursues even the most scariest of travel plans. I was fortunate enough to travel most of America and to be able to call Turkey my second home but there's so many cities left to see in the world! Why not do it while you're young? What do you really have to lose?

Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya
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Monday, July 21, 2014

10 Tips to Staying Positive From an Ex-Pessimist


I'll admit I haven't always been the most positive person in the world, I mean when my friends see this post they're going to think "really?!" (see what I mean?). Nonetheless, as I'm growing older I'm slowly realizing how important it is to stay positive. Sometimes that's all you really have when it comes to facing the many challenges that life will throw your way. A good friend once said to me: "If you change your thoughts, feelings and behavior will follow". I'm not saying it's going to be an overnight thing, you have to slowly train your mind to see the good in every situation when your first instinct is to exaggerate the bad. I will say, it's worth it because the world is all about perspective. We can choose to see the bad 24/7 and make ourselves miserable or we can choose to accept that life is short and we deserve to be happy even if things aren't always going our way.


#1.) Surround Yourself With Good People - When I mean "good" I mean people who are always going to make you laugh no matter what and help you to forget your problems. Not people who make you remember how many problems you have! Trust me, toxic friendships are not worth it in life yet we still allow ourselves to be around those types of people. It took me years to break off friendships with people that I didn't even like and people who made me feel horrible about myself simply because I didn't want to be alone. Sometimes it's better to be by yourself than to feel alone in a huge group of so-called "friends".

#2.) Everything You Go Through, Grows You - When you're a perfectionist like I am, you consider failure to be your greatest enemy. Nothing hurts more than some good ol' failure or so I thought. We will all learn eventually that failure is ALWAYS, NO MATTER WHAT beneficial to us. We have to go through it in order to learn and better ourselves. Just a few months ago I failed my math class that I was only taking 2 days a week at college. I was miserable and blamed myself for hours until I had a revelation: how else would I have realized that I shouldn't be taking math classes twice a week when it's my worst subject?

#3.) Stop Comparing Yourself To Others...Especially On the Internet - We live in a world where we share moments of our lives on a constant basis. From Instagram to Twitter, people have a tendency to brag about how "amazing" their lives are and as a result people who read their status updates or see their photos might feel something lacking in their lives. Realistically, you're not lacking in anything! You don't need material things like big houses and fancy cars in order to feel secure, you're more than enough just being you! The only people who are lacking in this case is the people who feel the need to brag about their success on social media. Stay humble and let the success do the talking for you.

#4.) Remember That Pain is Temporary - We all have scars that life has given us and as sad as this sounds, there will be more painful moments to experience. You have survived once, and you will survive again. It may feel like the end of the world when it is experienced but just know that pain is temporary. It will eventually subside and it is usually replaced with something better: wisdom and strength. The bright side is for every dark night that we go through in our lives, there's a better day. Try to remember those better days more than you remember what has happened to you in the past.

#5.) It's the Little Things - I know, I know it's cliche but a post on being positive is nothing without mentioning this. Think of all the things that make you feel better instantly, such as a nice cup of coffee or coming home from a long day of school and taking a nap. We're so focused on the bigger things in life that we never take the time to notice how much the little things mean to us as well.

#6.) Always Be Grateful - Another cliche one but out of all these tips, I believe this one is the most important. I've noticed my perspective on the world dramatically changed once I realized how lucky I was compared to other people. I have a home to come to every night, I have a family that cares about me, I'm fortunate enough to go to college, and the list keeps going on and on. These things may seem "normal" to us and something that everyone "should" have but in reality not everyone is fortunate enough to have these things. Still not convinced? Watch the news and get a glimpse at all the tragic things that go in this world and imagine yourself experiencing those events.

#7.) Get Moving - For some odd reason, the most relaxing part of my day is when I go to the gym and completely exhaust myself. I not only do it for the health benefits, but to also improve my mind. Some days it may feel like a chore to go to the gym, but I have never regretted a workout because it always puts me in a better mood at the end. Of course there are other ways to get the endorphin rush aside from going to the gym: go on a nice walk, play tennis with a friend, or ride your bike on a scenic trail. The possibilities are endless with this one as long as you remember one thing: headphones in, negativity out.

#8.) Give Back - Speaking of things I never regret, I have never regretted helping someone in need. There is only a small list of things in this world that can make you richer (trust me, I know I study finance!) and giving back is one of them. There's always someone in need so go out and find them. Charity work isn't just something that happens around Christmas time, many people need the help all year round. Trust me, it's appreciated plus you'll feel grateful in the process so that's two ways of being positive in one!

#9.) Learn to Say "No" - I see many people struggling with this one on a day to day basis yet still don't understand that they're not living their lives the way they want to simply because they haven't learned how to say "no"! You only got one life with a very limited amount of time in it and you have no idea when it's going to end so do you really think it's worth it to be living it for other people? 

#10.) Stop Taking Everything Seriously - I never realized how sensitive I was to every bad thing that happened to me until I started working a part-time job. I remember my first job was at the airport and my first week was a complete disaster filled with customers that didn't make things any better. Once I even came home crying because of the way I was treated by a customer who convinced me that I was nothing more than a "pathetic employee". Now I look back on it and think why did I waste so much time and energy on random people that I never saw again?


Well that's about it, I hope you enjoyed this post and let me know some of your tips to staying positive!

Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya
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Saturday, July 19, 2014

The Embroidered Skirt









Top: Forever 21, Skirt: Topshop via Nordstrom, Shoes: DV by Dolce Vita Joust Boots, Bag: Michael Kors Hamilton, Sunglasses: Ray-Ban Wayfarer, Bracelets: Istanbul, Nail Polish: Essie Sand Tropez


When it comes to British fashion, the first place I go to is Topshop. Unfortunately, we don't have a Topshop where I live (or even a H&M, how sad is that?!) so I either order from their online store or from Nordstrom which has quicker shipping for us Americans. I fell in love with this embroidered skirt right when I saw it on the website and it's currently the most colorful item I own in my wardrobe. I always tend to gravitate towards solids but I just couldn't resist the pattern (Indian-inspired perhaps?) and how my new bag made the green in the skirt stand out more. My only complaint with the skirt is that I wish the pattern continued in the back instead of it being a plain cotton material.

As for the rest of the outfit, I kept everything else simple with a black long sleeve shirt and the "Joust" boots from Dolce Vita. For the accessories, I went with my trusty Ray-Bans and some dainty bracelets that I bought at a flea market in Istanbul. About 90% of my jewelry comes from the flea markets in Turkey and that's because you can find so many unique pieces there for ridiculously cheap.


Until next time lovelies,

-Ruya
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Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Style Crush: Emma Watson in Dior Resort 2014


Emma Watson has done it again at the Dior afterparty on the same day that she attended their show for Paris Fashion Week which I already wrote about here. I think I like this look better than what she wore at the show! It's just so elegant yet still looks modern enough for her age. These days you see so many young Hollywood celebrities trying way too hard to come across as sexy yet with Emma, she always makes sure she looks classy. All I can say is perfection, this is what a young celebrity should dress like.

For this look, Emma decided to wear a flowy blue blouse and tucked it into a floral high-waisted skirt that gives the illusion of her legs being long. Great trick! Both the top and skirt is from Dior's Resort 2014 collection. Lastly, she completed the look with strappy blue heels and a leather clutch which unfortunately I couldn't find any details on.

As for the makeup and hair, she went with a natural makeup look but with a soft berry lip and a simple low bun. I'm guessing the lip color is from Lancome since she's a celebrity endorser for the line. Over all, it's classic and no-fuss and the best part is that it's attainable for young women to be able to copy the same look at home.


Hope you enjoyed this post! What are your favorite celebrity looks lately?


Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya

(source: emmawatsonupdates.tumblr.com)
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Monday, July 14, 2014

Casual Monday








Top: Lulus (old)
Shorts: Express (similar)
Boots: Report (via Marshalls)
Bag and watch: Michael Kors (here) (here)
Sunglasses: American Eagle (similar)


The title's kinda funny cause everyday is casual monday in my book. I don't get many opportunities to dress up and I always felt sad about that. Maybe in a unconscious sorta-of way, I chose to study business so I can dress up in suits all the time. Just watch, I'll probably end up working in the most casual office ever.

As you can see, I'm wearing white again and I swear some days it seems like that's all I have in my wardrobe. It's funny cause at one point in time I was buying a lot of black shirts cause I thought they made me look slimmer or that's what all the magazines said. I don't think that's how personal style should work, just wear whatever you want to and don't listen to those "fashion rules". Rules are meant to be broken and some of the most awesome trends have started because of breaking the rules. 

As for the shoes, I picked these up on a spontaneous trip to Marshalls and I love how they just go with everything. Why I haven't bought brown shoes before is beyond me. I wish I can post an actual link to them but if it helps they did retail for around $34.99 so keep an eye out at your local Marshalls if you are interested!


Until next time lovelies,

-Ruya
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Saturday, July 12, 2014

The Most Inspirational Video You Will Ever Watch

Hey guys! I apologize for not posting more over this past week! This week has been a complete whirlwind for me filled with challenges and a failure that I wasn't expecting. Thankfully, it's all over now but it's left me feeling numb and exhausted from the up and down emotions I've experienced. I literally thought that I was going to lose everything that I worked hard for and I was left feeling scared about the future but funny enough, it all had a way of working out at the end.

What I learned from this experience was how scared I was of failure. Not the type of failure where you fail a math test but the type that doesn't let you sleep at night and makes you lose your appetite because you're filled with anxiety. The type that gives you heartache and makes you wonder if things will ever be the same again. Most of all, the type that makes you think that you shouldn't leave your house ever again because the world is a terribly harsh place.

If you're one of those types or have been going through some sad times lately and desperately need some motivation to start all over again look no further than this video. I'm not even going to explain the video because the video stands all on it's own. All I'm going to say is I'm someone who reads and sees inspirational things on the web on a daily basis, yet I've never see anything like this. I literally got goosebumps while watching it and I'm pretty sure you will too.

 


Have an amazing weekend everyone and no matter what battle you're going through right now, stay strong!

Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya
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Thursday, July 10, 2014

My New Hair: "Bronde"




When it comes to my hair, I never minded taking risks with it. I'm fortunate enough to have thick hair that grows fast so I've taken advantage of it by trying out different haircuts and colors. Don't get me wrong, I would be genuinely sad if I didn't like the way my hair turned out but I don't think it would be the end of the world. I can always just color it or wait for it to grow out if I didn't like it but damage? That's completely another story. I've been coloring my hair for years and damage is something that I have tons of so I'd hate to add more. This time around, I decided to go much lighter than I ever have before but without being too dramatic and damaging. Introducing...my bronde hair! A hybrid of both blonde and brunette hair!

Since my hair was already a chestnut brown color and had thin caramel highlights that had grown out, my hairdresser decided to dye it the same brown base color and give me brighter, thicker highlights that would give an all-over lighter appearance. Although dyeing your hair in general does give you damage, this does take away some of it since it's not an all-over color.

I'm still getting used to my hair being this light but overall I think I like it. The first thing I noticed when I looked at myself in the mirror was that it gave me a healthy glow even without makeup on so that's defiantly a plus! I'm planning on keeping it for the summer but beyond that I'm not sure. I have to say, it is a great way for brunettes to go lighter without being an un-natural looking blonde. You ever just see a girl who's obviously a natural brunette rocking some platinum blonde hair with the black roots showing? That's like my biggest fear.

If you're looking for some bronde hair inspiration here's some of my favs...






What do you think of bronde hair? Any hair colors you're willing to try out over the summer?

Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya
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Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Celebrity Favorites at Dior Haute Couture Fall 2014

Paris Fashion Week: also known to us fashionistas as the perfect place to capture elegance and creativity all wrapped up into one. This week Christian Dior premiered with their new haute couture collection for fall and I fell in love with the silhouettes and the fabrics although I felt a bit disappointed when comparing it to their past shows. I miss when John Galliano was designing but I completely understand why Dior decided to let him go. On the bright side, there was a huge turn-out and I decided to share my favorite celebrity looks before the show. 

Charlize Theron


I decided to start this post with the beautiful Charlize who is also the face of Dior, wearing a metallic gold mini dress. It's simple yet made her stand out from others who were wearing darker colors from the past Dior collection. Smart move. I think it makes her skin glow and looks radiant with her blonde hair but then again it's Charlize, she looks perfect no matter what she wears.


Emma Watson


If there's one celebrity that I always looked up to both as a role model and as a fashion icon, it would be Emma. She's just so down-to-earth and she's not afraid to take some risks when it comes to fashion. I did see some people say this look of hers was a miss but I quite liked how unique it was. Plus if you saw any footage on tv or Youtube of the show, the dress flowed in such a dreamy way that I couldn't help but love it.

Zhang Ziyi



My absolute favorite was Zhang in this vintage style Dior coat-dress. Whenever I think of Dior I think of something like this back when the designs first came out. I thought she looked like a modern Audrey Hepburn in this and the shoes are to die for. I couldn't help but post two photos of this look!


I hope you enjoyed this post and in case you missed it here's Jennifer Lawrence at the fashion show being well...Jennifer Lawrence haha.


Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya

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Sunday, July 6, 2014

The Crop Top








Top: JCPenny (here)
Skirt: Ann Taylor (here)
Shoes: LC by Lauren Conrad (here)
Clutch: Gap (old)
 Lipstick: Nars "Jungle Red" (here)


I used to think the crop top trend was intimidating and something that wasn't worn in real life unless you're a skinny hot celebrity but that couldn't be farther from the truth! Crop tops can look amazing if you pair it with a high waisted skirt so only a sliver of skin is shown. What I like about this one is that it's not too revealing and is made out of scuba material that's really popular right now.

I decided to pair it with this gorgeous Ann Taylor skirt I spotted a few days ago from their new collection. It's made out of this comfortable linen material which makes it easy to keep cool in during the summer while the rhinestones gives it some glamour. The only downside is the skirt does wrinkle really easily which can get a bit annoying.

Lastly, I decided to add a sequin clutch since the rest of my outfit is so plain and is a great contrast against the rhinestones. At first I thought rhinestones and sequins? Scary! But the dark colors makes it look more sophisticated than childish. 


Until next time lovelies, 

-Ruya 
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